It is always nice to hear good things about people. I thought the example I gave however,indicated "rude" and "crude". If I care for the sake of"soft skills" to criticise myself as "lazy",it is hardly gracious to write back, "yeah, well I wouldn't brag about that. Ha, Ha, Ha." Or,"who are you to criticise anyone. Your typing is terrible, who can read it,what about the spelling" (which of course is the same as typing since I am more than pretty good at spelling, it is the typing that is poor') "Before you criticise someone else etc. etc..." Except as a counter attack, what has that to do with the price of eggs? All I needed was help on the Convincing Control move and I thought that either the write up was in error, or, I needed it explained to me.
When I had first pointed out the "error" John was so nasty and haughty, with a "yeah wise guy; show me" attitude. When I did, he exploded all over me. That lacks grace, or even just good sa salesmanship; after all I am a cusotmer and had touted his products on TSD. So, nice guys are not necessarily good typists, even of the word "always", but they try to be at least gracious --not highly defensive little,very little, puny men. They try to answer the item and stick to the issue and not attack the person (argumentum ad hominem) Politicians of little integrity do that all the time; never address the issue,instead attack the opponent, call him names ("Communist" works well, "liberal" too). For my money, not only is he not bright,he lacks grace, sophistication, manners and--oh well, there it is. I'm both glad that you enjoy his company and that I do not have to.